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Photography: Lance Kenneth Blakney l Model: Sophie H-L l Hair: Michael Drost l MUA: Billy Peterson l Fashion Design: Michelle Duncan l Surface Design/Styling: Dee Silkie

Photography: Lance Kenneth Blakney l Model: Sophie H-L l Hair: Michael Drost l MUA: Billy Peterson l Fashion Design: Michelle Duncan l Surface Design/Styling: Dee Silkie

Girls, can we be real?  As much as we love to talk a big talk about supporting one another and being "girls girls," that does not seem to be one of our natural instincts.  Yes we support our close friends and family (and lets be honest, even then we can have negative feelings towards our closest "tribe" members), but when it comes to seeing anther girl succeed, often times we are filled with envy, jealousy, and even anger.  SO, with that being said, I think it's important that we recognize this in ourselves and combat it!  

A friend of mine and I were having a coffee a while back and we were admiring the work of another girl from our girl group.  We were only saying good things about her and then my friend finally addressed the elephant in the room and blurted out, "I'm kind of bad jealous of her" (meaning, it wasn't just, "wow! So awesome she gets to do this, I'm so jealous." It was more, "ugh! I want to do this and I'm jealous it's her and not me").  As soon as she said it I confessed that I too was struggling with those same feelings!  I WANTED to support our fellow #girlboss and be happy for her, but I also wanted that same success for myself.  

The great thing about being HONEST with yourself and with others, is that when you recognize a feeling, or a thought, you can challenge it. The fact that we were open and honest enough to realize that we had those negative feelings made us realize our own ugliness inside and try even HARDER to support our friend.  Her success wasn't a bad thing, but our feelings about it were.   We were also able to take a step back from the situation and realize, that both of us have had and are going to continue to have our own success. This was our friend's time in the sun.

My point is, when you get jealous of another girl, it's good to be honest with yourself. Are those feelings coming from a place of insecurity?  Envy? Pride?  Once you know how you feel about something you can change the dialog in your mind. This not only builds yourself back up, but helps us do what we SHOULD be doing, supporting those around us. So if you see a girl friend doing something cool with her life, rocking a great outfit, loosing weight, doing something you wish YOU yourself were doing... COMPLIMENT HER. SUPPORT HER. LIFT HER UP!  We will all have our time in the sun.

D.W.